Dengi dong ja

is Korean for "ponytail boy." Isn't that a great phrase? Say it out loud—I dare you!

We went out for dinner last Friday night, to celebrate the last day of school and two terrific report cards. When it was time to order, our waiter turned to my son and said, "And what would you like, young lady?" So I said, "He's a boy." Well, you wouldn't believe how effusively the waiter apologized. Joey was extremely embarrassed by it, though he took it with good grace. And when it was time to leave, the waiter apologized some more, and actually gave Joey a great big long bear hug, which Joey really didn't like, though again he took it with good grace.

What makes this anecdote at all interesting? Well, I referred to our server as the waiter, and indeed he introduced himself as Jeffrey, but really he was trans-gendered. Joey, who had not heard the introduction, had no clue that our waiter was not female. When we talked about it later, he understood right away why the waiter had reacted the way he did.

Dengi dong ja
Dengi dong ja

P.S. This post is dedicated to my pal Leslie, who dated a guy with a ponytail during the year she taught English in Korea.


  • I want to know where there is a transgendered waitperson in town.

    I found your post really touching.

    I also hope Joey does not change his hair because of it. I think his ponytail looks great.

    I have now written 3, make that 4, declarative sentences in a row. Time to stop.

    posted by Blogger doulicia on 2:25 PM  

  • Olive Garden.


    He loves his ponytail. Don't worry.

    posted by Blogger Julie on 7:53 PM  

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  • Cool ponytail. I also dated boys/men with hair...(luckily my hubba hubba doesn't read my blog so I won't be kidded about that)

    Nice way to celebrate end of school!

    posted by Anonymous SilverMoon(GEL) other Writings... on 9:55 AM  

  • He's got a gorgeous head of hair I'll give him that. Just beautiful.

    posted by Blogger Sleeping Mommy on 11:07 AM